When women are pregnant they go through a wide variety of feelings and emotions. It’s important to remember that if you’re going to be a dad for the first time that you’re going to be dealing with your own emotions and life changes. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed and a bit in shock about becoming a dad.
Don’t feel guilty about the emotions that you’re feeling. Instead, take some steps to prepare as much as you can for parenthood so that when the big moment arrives, you’re as ready as you can be!
Dads Taking Care of Babies!
One of the biggest questions you’re probably asking yourself is if you’re even capable of taking care of a baby. The answer is that of course, you are!
You and your partner will no doubt be attending childbirth classes before your baby is born. While most of the classes will focus on what to expect at the end of your partner’s pregnancy and during childbirth, there will usually also be classes for first-time dads on how to care for their newborn.
You’ll learn how to hold your baby, change a diaper, and soothe your baby to sleep. Some classes will even show you how to install the car seat so that you’re not fumbling around when you take your baby home for the first time.
The great thing about childbirth classes is that you’ll soon find out that you’re not alone. You’ll meet other dads who are just as nervous as you are about holding a tiny baby for the first time.
Will You Be Good At Fatherhood?
Many men look past bringing their new baby home all the way to complete fatherhood in one giant step. You may be wondering if you have what it takes to be a good father.
Try to remember that you’re not going to be taking on every aspect of being a parent all at once. The first few years of being a dad are focused on caring and nurturing your child.
It will be a few years before you have to think about parenting an eight year old or a teenager.
If you’re really concerned about what kind of a dad you’re going to be, now is a good time to find a support group with other new dads going through the same issues that you are.
Talk About Becoming a New Dad with Your Partner
Keep the lines of communication open with your partner. Even before she starts to show her pregnancy, your partner will have daily reminders that she’s having a baby.
At the beginning of the pregnancy you may still be getting used to the idea. It may be hard for you to voice your concerns about becoming a parent when she’s so excited about being pregnant.
Try to talk to her about what you’re feeling but if you can’t there are other options. Perhaps you’re more comfortable talking to a male friend who has already gone through the emotions and changes of being a first time dad.
Becoming Dad During Childbirth
One fear that many first time fathers have is that they won’t be able to provide their partner with support during childbirth. They’re afraid that they’ll pass out or feel sick when they’re in the delivery room.
Most of these fears are based on the fun that has been poked at men when their partner is in labor. Believe it or not, this type of scenario doesn’t often happen.
Most men are able to step up to the plate just fine and support their partner through childbirth. Childbirth classes will help you be prepared for whatever may happen as your baby is being born.
Taking Time Off to Be a New Father
Making arrangements to take time off after your baby is born so that you’re home with your family is one of the best things that you can do. Your partner is going to need as much help as she can get during the first couple of weeks that she’s home with your baby.
More and more men are taking time off after childbirth. This is a great time for you to bond with your baby and for you and your partner to enjoy being a new family together.
Those first two weeks together are going to make lasting memories that are going to inspire you to be the best dad you can be.
Enjoying Being a Dad
Just think of the number of men before you who have survived being new fathers. It’s all a learning process and there’s no way for you to instantly know what to do to be a good dad.
The best advice you can follow is to prepare for the birth of your baby and be there for your partner during the delivery. The rest of it is really “training” that is done on the job.