Pregnant mothers-to-be are often not prepared for what lies ahead in the first month of their baby’s life.
Life can feel like it has been turned upside down but rest assured that after the first few weeks, most new moms get into the swing of things.
However, being prepared and understanding that things might not go exactly as you have planned can help you to make it through those first few weeks.
It’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Most new mothers feel nervous and even terrified in the first few weeks home from the hospital.
If you’re having a very hard time you may want to get checked by your doctor for postpartum depression.
Joining a support group is also a great way to find women who feel the same way as you do.
First Time Moms
It’s vital to remember to be gentle with yourself. No matter how many books you have read on the subject nothing can really prepare you for what it feels like to be a new parent.
The moment you look at your precious baby and realize that you are now, in fact, somebody’s mother can be both an exciting and frightening moment.
Many new moms even feel terrified to leave the hospital and not sure they will know how to care for their new baby.
Not to worry. While certain parts of baby care aren’t exactly instinct you’ll quickly get the hang of it. Remember not to be afraid to ask for help.
Too Many Guests
One thing many first time mothers assume is that they will need as much help as they can get from family and friends.
In reality, if this is your first child and you have no one else to take care of, you probably don’t need much, if any help at all.
Many mothers report that having overbearing parents telling them what to do with their new baby can actually be very frustrating and upsetting instead of being helpful.
If your partner can take some time off work consider spending the first few weeks as just the three of you.
Getting to know your new baby and adjust to having a new member of the family really doesn’t need help from anyone else at all.
Even new mothers who have had C-sections are completely fine to take care of their baby on their own.
If you do decide to have house guests try and set some ground rules before your baby is born. This way you will not feel overburdened to entertain and guests.
This first month at home is an important bonding time for mother, father, and baby.
Many new mothers are terrified of breastfeeding issues. At the hospital, some babies have latching issues and some nurses may push formula feeding.
If your hospital has a lactation consultant on staff, by all means, meet with her even if breastfeeding seems to be going along fine.
She can answer any questions or concerns you may have and help to guide you and your baby in the right direction to developing a healthy breastfeeding relationship.
Many moms feel pressured to either breastfeed or supplement with formula depending on a number of circumstances.
Just know that the most important thing is your baby is getting nourishment whether it’s in the form of breast milk or formula.
Even if your baby is having latching difficulties and you are determined to breastfeed you don’t need to give up.
Most doctors’ offices have a lactation consultant there or at least one they can refer you to. They’ll be able to help solve almost all breastfeeding issues.
You Don’t Need Much
Once you get home you may be worried that you don’t have everything you need for your new baby.
Newborns don’t need much in their first month of life, especially if you’re breastfeeding.
Have plenty of diapers on hand, weather appropriate clothing, formula if you need it, and of course your baby’s car seat.
Many parents stress about having every baby product at home before the baby even arrives.
Parents spend hundreds of dollars on the best baby swing only to find that their baby hates it.
If you have other friends with children ask to borrow baby items such as bouncy chairs and swings to see if your newborn enjoys them at all before you invest in your own.
Advice for new moms: Enjoy Your New Baby
The main thing to try and remember is to relax and enjoy your new baby. The newborn phase is fleeting and before you know it your new bundle of joy will be climbing all over the furniture, getting into all sorts of trouble.
Sleep can be hard to come by with a newborn but if you don’t have any older children, then sleep when your baby sleeps whether it’s 3 am or 3 pm.
If you’re stressed out about having guests over in your messy house then don’t have guests over. Everything else can wait.