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Keeping the Romance Alive While Trying to Conceive.

Keeping the Romance Alive

Your Sex Life and Conception

If you’re trying to get pregnant you no doubt realize that having sex and conception go hand in hand. But what starts out as lovemaking and making a baby can soon turn into a chore if you don’t get pregnant right away. This chore of having sex can then quickly start to cause problems in your relationship. The key to surviving trying to conceive is to do what you can to keep the romance alive as much as possible.

Communicating Your Feelings about Trying to Conceive

When you start feeling as though you’re just having sex on a schedule and are no longer making love, it’s time to talk to your partner. Open communication is what’s going to help you make it through this time. Perhaps only one of you is feeling as though sex has become a chore or maybe you’re both having the same feelings. Either way, you need to talk about what’s happening so that you can take steps to keep the romance alive. If you’ve been trying for a few months without success to get pregnant this is also a good time for you to talk about your concerns and fears. Is infertility going to become an issue for you? How will you deal with it? The more you and your partner talk the more you’ll be able to understand what each of you is going through.

Playfulness and Conceiving Your Baby

Even when you’re not having scheduled sex to get pregnant, every relationship can fall into a rut when it comes to intimacy. It can be even more difficult to keep the playfulness and creativity alive when your ultimate goal becomes conception. Sex used to be spontaneous, and now it’s become regimented and less intimate than it was before. There are some things that you can do to bring the playfulness back into your relationship. Try to plan things ahead of time that is going to spice up the bedroom. Maybe it’s time for some new lingerie? Or maybe you can surprise your partner with a candlelit dinner followed by more candles in the bedroom. Try to think outside of the things that you normally do when in the bedroom. Yes, you want to conceive as quickly as possible but this doesn’t mean taking the romance out of the equation.

Keep Your Thoughts on Making Romance, Not Making Babies

One of the biggest challenges that many couples face when they’re trying to conceive is that getting pregnant is all they think about. There can be a lot of fears and expectations involved with making love with the purpose of a baby.  As hard as it may be, try to keep your thoughts in the moment and not on what can happen in the future. If you and your partner are making love and all you can think about is what’s going to happen if you don’t get pregnant then your romance is going to take a nose dive. Try to recognize when your mind is wandering away from your partner and bring your thoughts back to having a romantic time. Making a baby should be less about getting the job done, and more about the joy and excitement of being together.

Keeping the Romance Alive with Spontaneity

Once you’ve decided to have a baby, you most likely want it to happen as soon as possible. The good news is that about 80 percent of couples will conceive within the first year of trying. With the odds in your favor of being pregnant in a year why not try to relax a bit? The best thing that you can do for your relationship is to be spontaneous and allow romance to take its course. While there’s a lot to said for increasing your chances of getting pregnant each month by timing intercourse, falling into the trap of scheduling and timing can be disastrous for your relationship. Talk to your partner about the importance of keeping the spark in your sex life burning even though you want to have a baby.

Enjoying Sex When Trying to Conceive

Sometimes women who have a great sexual relationship with their partner find that their feelings change when trying to conceive. It’s easy to see how this can happen. You may feel that where once your body was sexy and desirable, now it’s going to have another purpose: pregnancy and the birth of your baby. If this is happening to you, it’s important that you focus more on romance and intimacy and less on getting pregnant. Don’t start thinking and worrying about the changes that your body is going to go through after you conceive, as this type of thinking can adversely affect your lovemaking.

The Wonderful Emotions of Trying to Conceive

Trying to conceive can bring up some wonderful emotions for you and your partner. Deciding to have a baby is a big deal! Make the most of the special connection that you’re feeling at this time. Plan romantic and intimate moments with each other. Even though the goal is to get pregnant and have a baby the road there should be fun, exciting, and filled with romance.

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