The Stress of Trying to Conceive
Some women are able to get pregnant in no time at all, while some of us seem to take forever. If you’ve been trying to conceive for a while now and you’re still not getting pregnant you’re no doubt starting to feel very stressed and worried.
You’ll be wondering what you’re doing wrong and if you’re ever going to have a baby. In the meantime, the family and friends that you’ve told about your desire to have a baby are probably telling you to relax and take it easy.
While this advice is most likely the words you don’t want to hear, they have a lot of truth to them. Studies clearly show that stress can most definitely affect your fertility!
The Reality behind Stress and Your Fertility
Yes, studies show that how much stress you’re going through can affect your chances of getting pregnant. When you’re feeling stress there will higher levels of cortisol in your body. Cortisol is a hormone that has a direct relation to stress.
The more of it there is the harder it can be for you to get pregnant. In order for you to conceive the hormones in your body need to be somewhat in balance. When one of these hormones is out of balance it can affect your reproductive system.
How Much Stress is Too Much
It’s not yet fully understood how much stress is too much when it comes to your fertility. There are some women who seem to thrive on stress and who aren’t affected at all by it.
And then there are other women where even the slightest bit of stress can throw their bodies into depression and anxiety. Not being able to conceive because you’re stressed can lead to a vicious cycle.
The longer it takes you to get pregnant the more stress you’re going to feel. Even going through infertility treatment has its own added stress and worries. So what can you do to reduce some of the anxiety that you’re feeling at this time in your life?
Reduce Stress by Changing Your Thinking
One of the best things that you can do to reduce the stress you’re feeling when trying to conceive is to change the way you think. Stop thinking that “everyone seems to get pregnant so easily” as this can only lead to negative thoughts and emotions.
Learn to change your negativity into statements and thoughts that are positive so that you can cope with the fact that it’s taking you longer than other couples to conceive. There are many other couples going through the same thing that you are.
After all, if getting pregnant was really so easy, there wouldn’t be infertility specialists and clinics all around the world. Learn to recognize your negative thinking so that you can correct your destructive thoughts when they happen, to ones that are more realistic and positive.
Reduce Stress by Finding Ways to Relax
One of the best ways to reduce stress is to find ways to relax and calm you. This can be many things for many people. Perhaps this is a good time in your life to take a meditation class so that you can learn to relax both your body and your mind.
Spending time every day not focusing on the fact that you want to have a baby is both healthy and empowering. Relaxation and meditation is a great way to lower your blood pressure and encourage a slower heartbeat which can then improve your overall health.
Just as the stress of trying to conceive can be a damaging cycle, relaxation can be a constructive cycle that is going to allow your body to unwind and perhaps boost your fertility.
Include Your Partner in Stress Management
It’s not only you that is going through the stress of trying to get pregnant; your partner is certainly going through his own stress and worry. Everyone handles their stress in different ways but what’s important is that you handle it so that it doesn’t start to adversely impact your life.
Talking to your partner about the stress that you’re feeling is a good way to share what you’re both going through. Keeping your worry and anxiety to yourself is just going to isolate you, and make you feel even worse about not getting pregnant as fast as you’d like.
Keep the lines of communication open between you. You’ll want to know what he’s going through as well so that you can work together through what can be a very difficult time.
Getting Support for Stress
Don’t be ashamed to ask for help and support for the stress you’re feeling about not getting pregnant. Many other women are feeling and experiencing the same things that you are.
There are many support groups out there for both women and men who are dealing with the reality of infertility. Talking to others is going to make you feel less alone and may even offer you some coping strategies.
Listen to what others are telling you about trying to relax and not worry so much. Don’t let the stress of infertility take control over your life.