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Trying to Get Pregnant – Are You Trying Too Hard

YourBabyLibrary-Trying To Get Pregnant: Are You Trying Too Hard
YourBabyLibrary-Trying To Get Pregnant: Are You Trying Too Hard

Can you Try Too Hard to Get Pregnant?

If you’ve been trying for over 6 months to get pregnant without success, you’re no doubt feeling a bit discouraged and wondering if you’ll ever have a baby. And if you’ve been talking to your family and friends about pregnancy you’re probably tired of being asked if it’s happened yet. Everyone has advice and tips to offer along with telling you that maybe you’re just trying too hard. Although you may not think that there is such a thing as “trying too hard” the reality is that this just might be what’s delaying you from getting pregnant.

Getting Pregnant Should Be Easy!

Most of us have been led to believe that getting pregnant is an easy and natural process, but if you’ve been trying for a few months to conceive you know that this just isn’t true. For some couples pregnancy isn’t going to be as easy as it is for others. The reality is that each month you only have about a 20 to 30 percent chance of getting pregnant. While most couples will conceive in the first year, a small percentage will take longer. If you’ve been trying for some time now to conceive, you’ve most likely started to get advice and tips from other couples. People may be telling you that you need to stop trying so hard and that you just relax. They may tell you of other couples who got pregnant right away after they stopped trying and focusing so much on having a baby. Or what about that couple who stopped trying, adopted and baby, and then got pregnant after all?

Could there be Truth to Trying Too Hard to Get Pregnant?

There has been a lot of research done about how stress has an effect on fertility. Some studies show that while stress can impact your fertility it’s not yet certain whether the stress is causing infertility or if you not getting pregnant is building up the stress. There is no doubt that stress can be hard on your relationship. When you and your partner are trying so hard to conceive, your optimism and joy turn quickly turn to despair and stress when month after month goes by and you’re still not pregnant. Stress can lead to not taking proper care of your body. You need to eat right, exercise, and get lots of rest when you’re trying to get pregnant. The cycle of too much stress and trying too hard can be a harmful one. Before you know it you’ve worked yourself into the belief that there’s something wrong with you and that you’ll never have a baby. However for 90 percent of those couples who don’t conceive in the first year there is an identifiable reason why they’re dealing with infertility issues. Only a small percentage of these infertility cases will be untreatable.

Fertility Doesn’t Improve if You Stop Trying to get Pregnant

There is a myth that if you stop trying for a while that your fertility will improve. This is not at all true. If you’re not trying you’re never going to get pregnant! The stories where couples just stop trying to conceive, adopt, and then get pregnant are not based on true facts. One thing that you can do if you think that you’re trying too hard to get pregnant is to try timing your sexual intercourse for every other day rather than every day. This way your partner’s sperm will have a day to replenish and you’ll still be having sex during your fertile window.

When to Get Help When you’re Not Getting Pregnant

You and your partner should see your doctor if after about 6 months of trying to conceive you’re still not successful. Your family doctor will give you a complete physical examination and may refer you to a fertility specialist. Don’t be alarmed if this happens to you. The fertility specialist will be able to diagnose if there are any fertility issues that need to be addressed so that you can plan accordingly. If there are any medical factors that are preventing you from getting pregnant, you can find out what treatments are available for you own individual circumstances.

Trying Hard at the Right Time

It’s important that you have intercourse at the right time of the month. Keep track of your fertility cycle by charting your basal body temperature and using an ovulation predictor kit. Don’t allow yourself to become obsessed with taking your temperature and rushing to have sex on your fertile days. This type of obsession will quickly wear down both you and your partner. If you find that you’re just too overwhelmed and anxious about having a baby right away, know that it’s okay to take a break for a month or two.

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